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October 2006
The TAT Forum
Essays, poems, opinions and humor on seeking
and finding answers to your deepest life-questions
Notes on Inner Guidance
by Jim Burns
You may unconsciously be chastising yourself that inner work is not a good use
of time and energy. You may be prejudiced against your own thinking compared to
what someone else says or what you read in a book. You have to think as much of
your own thoughts as you do of somebody else's. You may feel foolish about the
things you are thinking about, but you have to start somewhere. You have to
realize that you are trying to be a student of yourself and that it is a good
effort.
Starting as a child you seek guidance outside yourself because you know no
better and you don't have the brain to even imagine being a source of your own
guidance. Everyone wants to belong, and when you are a child you want to belong
to all the idiots who don't think, which is the whole crux of the problem.
Ultimately your own system is the guidance you're seeking and is perfectly
attuned to your circumstances.
I was stumbling around with meditation and discovered that if something was
bothering me and an answer to the problem occurred to me, then it stopped
bothering me. So when something started bothering me I knew I was looking for a
specific answer, which was the golden key to the thing. Little did I realize how
much work it would be. At first you don't know what you are seeking. Once you
make the discovery of this inner satisfaction, then you know what you are
seeking for. You're blind to it for quite a while. You just know things aren't
what you'd like, but you aren't able to be specific about it. Our major appetite
is the need to comprehend. Comprehension is a specific appetite and even needs
to understand itself. You need to know what the mind is trying to get done so
you can be more effective at it. Your internal system is entirely capable, given
the opportunity, to teach you what it is trying to teach you. Your inner being
knows. Your outer being is always unknowing.
These notes are excerpted from "At Home with the Inner Self" by Jim Burns. A
digital version of the book, along with an audio CD of conversations with the
author, can be ordered from the
Mystic Missal web site.
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Richard Rose on Controlling the Mind
From a presentation at the June 2006 TAT meeting
by Art Ticknor
Discussing the technique that Richard Rose laid out in the final section of "The
Psychology of the Observer" for bringing the mind under control:
I'd like to begin with a little survey, to get your opinion:
Q: Do you feel you have some control over the mind? If so, what %, or what % of
the time? If not, is your mind otherwise controlled? Out of control?
This presentation is organized around some key phrases from "The Practical
Approach" section of the book. Here's a test you can try: Don't read the list
of key phrases until I point to an item as I cover it in the presentation --
and then don't read ahead. [For the presentation, the list was on a flip
chart. Here, it's reproduced in boxes on the right side of the screen.] And
while you're doing or not-doing that, here's a question to consider:
Q: "Do you think, or do you think that you think?"
That's a brain-teaser that Rose commented on in the Meditation Paper. We
identify with our thoughts and desires as if they were our proud possessions, or
sometimes our demons.
Q: Do you intentionally start thinking when you awake in the morning? Can you
stop thinking? Try it now....
Q: "How does a person realize he or she is not really thinking? We can't stop
thinking or start thinking, and we can rarely choose the subject material or the
direction of thought."
Q: Do you intentionally select your thoughts? Your feelings? Other objects of
consciousness? Do you select the opposing fears and desires that cause your
internal conflicts? Do you select your reactions to the above? Do you select
their recording and recall?
1 - in search of awareness
2 - romance & make-believe
3 - freedom from facing oneself
4 - excessive indulgence of the appetites
5 - destined to do mighty things
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1. in search of awareness [first item on list]
Have you ever thought of the search for whatever it is you're looking for in
terms of a "search of awareness"? My feeling is that if a person pursues
whatever he's searching for deeply enough, it will become a search for the
source of his awareness. Rose equated that with an investigation of the self --
of the real self or Ultimate Observer. He also referred to it as defining the
self.
2. romance & make-believe
What do romance or make-believe have to do with controlling the mind? If you
watch a child at play, you'll see that we begin indulging in these moods at an
early age ... and they stay with us for decades. These particular moods control
our minds and encourage a great deal of unrealistic thinking. Rose comments that
most people "cast their lives away almost wantonly." Have you observed that?
3. freedom from facing oneself (bad)
Freedom has the connotation of being good. If a person is drawn to meditation, I
assume it's because of a dissatisfaction they're trying to neutralize. Such
dissatisfaction results from not knowing the self, and to know the self, we have
to face the self. But is that what the self really wants? And is there a
technique for doing it -- or are techniques used to procrastinate doing it?
Rose wrote that we need a system that will allow the student to really think,
perhaps for the first time. His conviction was that posture doesn't matter.
Walking may be best. The important thing is to spend a prescribed period of time
alone each day in some manner.
4. excessive indulgence of the appetites (good)
Indulgence has the connotation of being bad, but it's often the initial catalyst
for real self-analysis. You might think it would begin with an adolescent fear
of death or the shock of rejection, but generally that doesn't lead to a
questioning of what's alive and facing death. It's informative to observe the
effect of too-muchness on the body and mind. Rose advised that it also pays to
observe others' attitudes toward us and to note the effects of their appetites
on their health and peace of mind.
5. destined to do mighty things
"Almost every young man thinks that he is an outstanding creature, that is
destined to do mighty things...."
6. intense appreciation of the self
He has an "intense appreciation of the self as being unique and of extreme
importance to the world" -- and typically treats his "family as being secondary
or implementive."
Q: Sound familiar?
Being successful in one of the life games (e.g., fame, wealth, knowledge; see
Robert DeRopp's Master Game for a table of object games and metagames)
might complicate this delusion, but in any case life is organized to provide
what Rose termed "afflictions to the individuality sense" that will challenge
this vanity. Life is generous in handing out those incidents, so it's a question
of whether we use them in our search for meaning.
6 - intense appreciation of the self
7 - dynamic search for the permanent center
8 - lonely in the face of infinity
9 - aware that something is aware
10 - something within you....
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7. dynamic search for the permanent center
What would propel you to a dynamic search for the permanent center of yourself?
The bhakti mystic has a feeling for it (Love). The idealist has a desire for it
(Truth). The dissatisfied have a longing for it (Reality, Peace, etc.).
What currently prevents it? Hesitation, playing it safe, trying to appease all
the desires and fears -- that's the mode of procrastinating it. The core reason:
the pride of individuality.
8. lonely in the face of infinity
Many people feel lonely, and fear of dying alone is a common fear. These are
both symptoms of the recognition that we're facing the unknown, infinity. The
only comfortable view in the face of infinity comes from the seat of
non-transience.
9. aware that something is aware
You appear to be a separate individual. Your thoughts are not the same thoughts
as your neighbor's. Your inner struggle is not the same as your neighbor's.
"Something in [your] consciousness is aware of [your] struggle. Something is
aware, and [you are] aware that something is aware."
Q: You are aware that you desire. But do you desire, or are you caused to
desire? Do you select things as objects of desire -- such as picking the type of
person for a mate -- or "is all that selection determined by computerizations
more intricate than [your] conscious mind is capable of having?"
10. something within you....
Something within you "urges and inhibits." Sometimes it causes you to take
risks. At other times it results in caution. Something in you causes you to
"enter joyously into the game of life" -- and at times makes you "long for
death."
"And yet all of these things seem to form a pattern, which makes for some sort
of destiny. Something within [you], if [you] allow it to, will make decisions
for [you], take care of [your] children, and condition [you] for dying when the
time comes."
That something is the decision-making program at work. Rose labeled it "the
Umpire," which will make perfect sense to you if you see it in operation.
11. no consideration for your spiritual hopes
When we observe the decision-making at work, we see that it's apparently
programmed to follow a blueprint, a plan of nature, which makes any
consideration for our spiritual hopes secondary. It doesn't discourage religion,
but it "encourages all religions which encourage nature."
12. disciplines for spiritual survival
"... and it draws the blinds of drowsiness over the minds that speculate too
long on immortality and the disciplines for guaranteeing spiritual survival."
The quest for permanence is a game that's contra-ego and contra nature's
hypnosis. ("We stagger soberly between the blades of the gauntlet with
recklessness and conviction, but we pick our way through the tulips with fear
and trepidation because the trap of the latter is sweet." Richard Rose, "Notes
on Between-ness," The Direct-Mind Experience.)
11 - no consideration for your spiritual hopes
12 - disciplines for spiritual survival
13 - self-aware yet painfully subject to
a termination of that consciousness
14 - one job at a time
15 - adverse force(s)?
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13. self-aware yet painfully subject to a termination of that consciousness
Rose points out that we can assume that there must have been some purpose in
creating individuals who are "self-aware yet painfully subject to a termination
of that consciousness." But the question must remain unanswered for now because:
14. one job at a time
"The energy and commitment of the observer can only handle one job at a time" --
that job being defining the self, answering the "Who am I?" question.
"Who is living? Who is faced with oblivion?.... Who is asking the question? Who
is it that observes the glassy fragments of thought and self, which if sorted
and properly arranged, will form some magic crystal ball that shall for all time
answer our questions about our future?"
So we puzzle over this unseen self, trying to put the fragments together into
some satisfying answer -- typically with these results: We get frustrated,
angry, discouraged, self-pitying ... whatever negative emotions our personality
has learned to use to reinforce its tenuous position.
Douglas Harding, in Look for Yourself: "How is it that we need all this
prodding, all these warnings and earnest invitations and promises of infinite
rewards, to persuade us to take a really close look at ourselves? Why don't all
intelligent and serious people make it their chief business in life to find out
whose life it is?"
15. Is there an adverse force?
Rose: "Keep to the business of observing. When observation turns into a course
of action in regard to adversity, then a religion emerges. And when a religion
is formed, dichotomy of the mind follows. In other words, observation is just
looking until realization is reached. The only action that should be taken is
some form of self-discipline to keep the focus of observation from wandering, or
some change in the immediate environment to make thinking easier."
John Wren-Lewis ("Unblocking a Malfunction in Consciousness"): "One thing I
learned in my former profession of science was the right kind of lateral
thinking can often bring liberation from Catch-22 situations, provided the
Catch-22 is faced in its full starkness, without evasions in the form of
metaphysical speculations beyond experience."
Why control the mind?
There are some obvious practical advantages -- doing chores or homework
regardless of our mood, for example. But we're here to talk about the search for
your awareness. And that's where the topic of meditation comes in. Productive
meditation involves using the mind as a stick to stir the fire.
What meditation technique should you use?
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Theory: Self-inquiry is the fast track; devotion the slow path.
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Theory: "Seeing" is the fast, direct path, but we're often diverted at the
cloverleaf junction into the way of the devotee, the way of the servant, or the
way of the artist. (Douglas Harding, To Be and not to be [capitalized as
on book cover].)
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Theory: "One should not think of [the Self] with the mind. Such imagination will
end in bondage.... Enquiry into the Self in devotional meditation evolves into
the state of absorption into the Self and leads to Liberation.... Because the
ego in the form of the 'I-thought' is the root of the tree of illusion, even a
tree is felled by the cutting of its roots." (Ramana Maharshi, "Self-Enquiry.")
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Theory: Most testimonies have come from people who have found the Truth through
the path of feeling. Thus their advice commonly consists of stopping thought.
The minority have gotten there through thinking. The fastest route is for the
individual to hone whichever faculty -- thinking or feeling -- is more dominant.
(Franklin Merrell-Wolff, Pathways Through to Space.)
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Theory: We have two tools to use -- common sense and intuition. They need to be
employed together, to check each other. (Richard Rose.)
Richard Rose's 4-step technique for controlling the mind ("I do not wish to
leave the impression that there an exact number of steps but rather that things
should be done with definite preparation and in proper sequence."):
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The body has to come under control. Force it to sit ... outwit it by exposing it
to tapes or reading, then go for a walk and allow whatever thoughts happen to
come.
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Establish an objective. First realize that thoughts happen on their own, each
paving the way for the next. (It may take some "effortless" watching of the mind
to reach that realization.) Insert our objective into the seemingly endless
chain of thought-caused thoughts. We wish to scrutinize the self.
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Avoid trying to view the self directly and objectively until the mind is placed
under some control. The self is not something that can be imagined or visualized
objectively, like a gold nugget. Don't try to visualize an Umpire (the
decision-making process), for example. Wait until you know the mind well enough
so that the workings we label as the Umpire become overwhelmingly manifest and
the mind realizes that no other explanation of those workings is possible than
to view it as an Umpire.
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The fourth step begins by isolating the mind so that there is nothing else of
importance to think about. Surround yourself with pertinent books, tapes,
reminders. Make the commitment of step #2 -- a silent order to the computer that
we prefer to think of nothing rather than tolerate rambling, irrelevant
thoughts. Thoughts may stop by this technique of turning the head away from
irrelevant thoughts. It's important to have a mental vector or philosophic
direction established first.
Exercise: Think only of thought. (Discuss afterward.)
"Real concentration at its best is only a very artful way of allowing yourself
to think along desired lines," Rose points out.
The four steps provide a framework for getting started, but eventually we come
to a point where progress depends on insights gained from our introspection of
the mind.
In the Psychology of the Observer, Rose has provided examples of how to
go about the discovery of the Umpire and then of a Process Observer beyond the
Umpire.
He tells us: "The Umpire is discovered by the recognition of polarity in all
mundane things, including the mundane mind.... Such a somatic Umpire rules our
life until we can build, synthetically, a philosophic Umpire, focused by our
desire upon the self for its survival and definition...."
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Poems read at the end of the above presentation
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"Alone"
We're here today
working together
in hopes of accelerating
your return ... recycling.
You fear being alone
because it reminds you of something
you don't want to think about:
that we die alone.
Jesus said:
"Many stand before the door,
but it is the Alone
who enters the bridechamber."
The word alone
comes from Middle English,
a contraction of
all and one.
We are working together
so that you can return
to your true state
of nonseparation.
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"The River"
The Ohio River flows
along where I walk most days.
It begins in Pittsburgh,
formed by the confluence
of two rivers there,
then meanders for nearly
a thousand miles
before flowing into the
Mississippi, which in turn
flows for about another
eleven hundred miles before
merging into the ocean.
What is a river?
Without the water
it is a dry abstraction,
a mere concept.
A river with no water:
no-river.
A mind with no thought:
no-mind.
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The Light of Friendship
by Bob Fergeson
As the years go by, I find that throughout my life I have been accompanied by
two kinds of friends. One is of the inner sort, the helpers of the intuition,
the still small voices within that guide one, especially during times of duress.
This could almost be called the Self, and could be said to be within, until we
are ready to merge with it in union. The other set is of the outer variety, and
cloaked in flesh and blood. These are the helpers of the human type, those
steadfast beings who stand by us through thick and thin, but thankfully don't
take too kindly to our ego's bull and bluster.
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These two sets of friends spring from the same source as we, the Inner Self, and
when we are very young we may still know this. As life and the world have their
way, we drift farther from these friends, and trade them for what we come to
believe are better helpers. We develop that strange exterior self, the ego, if
you will, and forget what we are in favor of its sweet promises. Soon, the
friends we turn our ear to are helpers of a different sort. These forces are
adverse to our clarity, and aid us only in building our newfound separate
"self." The old inner friends are still with us; we just are too busy obsessing
with the game of desire and ego security to hear them. Those of the outer
variety get caught up in the new game of ego building just as tight as we. And
this is as it should be, for our human destiny will have its day.
But sooner or later we come to the time when we have traveled so far afield into
the world of thought and mind that we may lose all sight of true friends, and
come to find ourselves surrounded by ghosts, the substitute images we have
projected into our own minds, shadows of the real. Our heads become clouded with
concepts and desire, fears and undefined feelings. We may long for the innocence
and simplicity of our youth, and begin to question the so-called friends of the
present, who may be mere reflections of our own obsessions, born of unquestioned
wants and unresolved conflicts. As we see our human friends of the past becoming
caught in the same web, we realize they too have become ensnared in thought and
wholly identified with the mind's reaction pattern.
It is at this time that we have the golden opportunity to reverse our course. To
head back towards our Source, our Home. It is now, too, that our friends are
most valuable. The voice of intuition can be heard when we reflect on our life,
more than when we project and justify it. Our outer buddies, too, come to our
aid, for they see the good in us, our potential for becoming, and aid us in
whatever fashion they can, and we allow.
At every turning point, a friend came to my aid. He was standing in the wings,
and put out his hand at the right moment. Not only to pick me up, but to block
my way if I was about to step into yet another fire. This may have been an inner
voice quietly suggesting a new direction, or a friend showing me a part of
myself, whether good or bad, that I was blind to.
This light of friendship eventually leads us to a paradox; that our friends and
we are merely facets of the one Light, reflected in the mind. We can find this
Light with their help, though only alone will we take the journey back beyond
the separateness and discord of mind, thought, and otherness.
See Bob's web sites, The
Mystic Missal, the
Photo Site, and
The Listening Attention.
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A Relentless Man
by Gary Harmon
Richard Rose 1979
San Gabriel Mountains
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He wrote his book for the purpose of sharing; to pass on the things he learned
through a life-time of effort. He knew that few would care, and even less would
actually be interested. But maybe a couple would find them priceless. It was an
effort for him, but he still continued. He preferred physical labor to writing
books. Unmoving, his calling required that he at least make an attempt. It was
so hard to speak to those that don't know. The task is not simple and might span
past this lifetime. Not everyone goes to the same place when they die; and
knowing this he hoped to help just a little. So he carried on until he could
give help no more. He was a relentless man. His purpose caused his existence to
have much meaning.
See Gary's web sites
Spiritual Books Worth Reading and
Gates of the Mind.
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The Essence of Christian Mysticism
Reflections on a weekend retreat with Bernadette Roberts - part 2
by Kiffy Purvis and Doug White
Continued from the August 2006 TAT Forum, which
begins with an excerpt from the retreat brochure.
Doug's Notes and Reflections:
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The retreat was held at Grailville, a retreat center located in farmland and
rolling hills in southwest Ohio, about 35 minutes from Cincinnati. Bernadette
started with a confrontational introductory session where she asked each
participant to describe their path and spiritual practices. The rest of the
weekend was spent on a set of presentations and discussions covering ideas such
as the Trinity, the mystery of Christ, faith as a mystical experience, unique
characteristics of Christian mysticism, and the characteristics of revelation.
There was also silent time for prayer and meditation scheduled between sessions.
During the retreat she often recommended active involvement in the Catholic
Church with love of God being the guiding force of your life and actions. "All
the saints spent much time in silent prayer, they lived the sacramental life in
the church, went to mass faithfully, went to confession, read many of the same
books, said the same rosary, and sang many of the same hymns," she said.
Although she was a very warm and friendly person, she could also be very
confrontational and critical. Her biggest criticisms were directed at selfish,
self-absorbed, spiritual lifestyles and paths. "The Christian tradition is a
proven 2,000 year old tradition. There is no need for ineffective do-it-yourself
religions and practices," she said. As evidence for the success of the Christian
approach, she pointed out that she knows many monks in the unitive state in
monasteries; however, most of them don't talk about it, so that's why you don't
hear about it if you've been at one. To sum this up, she mentioned: "The
monastic rules make saints. You'll get holier and holier as you stay there."
A rule of thumb that she reiterated was: "How it went for Christ is how it goes
for us." She said, "We recapitulate his journey. Christ gave no indication of
searching for anything, of looking or suddenly discovering something new or old.
He wasn't seeking enlightenment or Oneness with God. He offered no techniques,
laws or paths; rather, he said: 'I am the Way' -- Love of God being the sole
path."
Some of her statements of a more esoteric angle:
- "God doesn't know who he is!"
- "Heaven is here-and-now because there is no space and time in
heaven."
- "The reason that God is a mystery is because he is too close,
closer to us than we are to ourselves."
- "That in you that loves God is not you; it is Christ."
- "You people are seeing God all the time and you don't realize
it!"
- "You never can have more or less of God. You can have more or
less of self. As self decreases, God increases."
- "The truth is very simple; it is also unbelievable."
- "I wouldn't wish the no-self experience on anyone. It's a
totally unrewarding life!"
- "God doesn't transform. He takes away."
- "Self is experience, and needs experience to grow."
Some things she said about her spiritual way of living:
- "Faith was the one constant in my life."
- "What motivated me was love."
- "I wanted to give up everything so there was no self in
everything."
- "I was never looking for experience. I was looking for something
permanent. Experiences lead to peaks and valleys."
Some general recommendations:
- "When someone confronts you, don't go out in reaction. Just be with it. It
will burn the ego out eventually if you keep doing that."
- "You need to go to church and pour your heart out to God."
- "Repeating the rosary over and over can save you from distraction." She said
she still says the rosary regularly.
- "All you have to do is give your whole life to God. Love of God is the sole
path."
- "Use your mind until it goes out on you."
- "Self-discipline is imperative."
- "You should be in this for love of God only and not for something you can
get for yourself." This is something she repeatedly stressed.
- "Ask the guy who's on the rung right above you for help. Don't ever ask for
help from the guy on top." Kiffy and I smiled when we heard this one. This is
part of Richard Rose's law of the ladder almost verbatim.
- When I was talking with her one-on-one, she recommended spending time in the
woods alone and spending time in a monastery. She said that everyone should
experience both at some point in their life.
- "I believe in detachment and ascetic practices if you're a beginner, but
most things are taken away. How to do detachment? God takes things away from us,
and then we can practice detachment."
- "You practice and practice and practice until you reach the unitive state.
You still continue the same practices, but it's spontaneous so it's no longer a
practice.
- After the self falls away, there's still the practice, but there is no self
practicing. The path goes on but there's no longer a self on the path.
- "Don't want experience, but the change it has on you."
- "Your intellect should run the show. You need to learn how to keep the
emotions in check."
- "All you can do is try to give your all to God. If you think you have, then
you probably haven't."
Statements critical of the do-it-yourselfers, their practices, ideas and other
non-Christian traditions and ideas:
- "I can't stand this non-duality business!"
- On vipassana: "One hour of that and I'd be raving mad!"
- "I don't understand the use of regular practices; they're
tedious, boring, and depressing!"
- "No other religion but Christianity accepts man in his humanity
-- a limitation of Buddhism is that it denies any existence of a self; you
cannot transcend something that you deny exists."
- "I don't believe in techniques. Love cannot be made into a
technique." She later added: "I'm all for practice -- not for techniques that
you think will get you somewhere. I've probably spent more hours in silent
meditation than anyone in this room."
- "I have no use for a non-personal God. It has to be a God that
is personal and cares for us. The essence of the Trinity is relationship. It you
didn't have a personal relationship with God, then why would you keep going? If
God is utterly transcendent, then what does it matter? You might as well be
agnostic."
- "If you're in it for your own self-serving, forget it."
- Jesus didn't focus on himself; he focused on the father. Love
the Lord God with your whole heart, your whole soul, etc. Jesus didn't have
regular practices."
- "There is no other way to God. I am the Way, the Truth, and the
Life. You have to have your whole life focused on God."
Bernadette doesn't have her critical eye aimed only at non-Christian traditions;
she also has much to say about weaknesses in mainstream Christianity:
- "99% of the churches are teaching nothing."
- "The Methodists today are totally into social work."
- "The Bible -- a paper God." (Directed towards Bible-thumping
Protestants.)
- "Christianity is mysticism. They don't stress this in the
church."
- "The Nicene Creed shouldn't be as it's worded anyway. There
never was a time when there wasn't a Logos or Holy Spirit. The creed seems to
say otherwise."
- "I don't believe in original sin. It's ridiculous. We're born
without sin but not perfect."
- "Hell -- You have to believe in it, but you don't have to
believe there is anyone there!"
- "God -- I have to wonder about some of his mistakes!"
- "I never liked the man Jesus or had a special devotion to him.
To me the big mystery was Christ."
- On the book of Revelations -- "I would have thrown that out
years ago! I wouldn't bother with it."
- "Underhill's book on Christian mysticism was the biggest mess on
Christian mysticism ever written. She didn't know what she was talking about."
Someone asked me, "What's the most important thing you got out of the Bernadette
Roberts retreat?" I think it was the powerful experience of meeting someone who
had dedicated their entire life uncompromisingly to the love of God and search
for truth and had an authentic no-self experience. I also learned that there is
a world of difference between reading someone's books and meeting them in
person. She was more confrontational and interesting than I would have expected
from reading the books. I thought, especially after watching a video of one of
her presentations, that it would be a rather dry academic experience.
It was uncomfortable at times because she didn't hold back anything in her
criticisms. She made fun of what she called "do-it-yourself" spiritual paths,
and she stated that if you're in it for yourself, you'll get nowhere. I've
already mentioned many of her general criticisms, but here's a few more just for
good measure: On Swedenborg -- "Forget him!" On Berkeley -- "Those liberal
creeps!" To me and Kiffy -- "I know you guys. You're dabblers. You dabble in a
little bit of this and a little bit of that!"
Bernadette's message is one of uncompromising search for truth no matter what
the cost. I certainly couldn't argue with this, and it definitely fits in with
Rose's view of the spiritual path. She differs with Rose and other teachers I
respect in that she emphasizes this path has to be dedicated to a personal God,
which is a very different attitude if not a fundamentally different message. I
also think that although she doesn't appear like it on the surface because of
the intellectual nature of her writings, her path was in the end a bhakti path
since it was love of God that led her to do everything she did, as she mentioned
several times during the weekend.
I found the retreat worthwhile, but I wouldn't want to go again because her
approach is too locked in the Christian paradigm, at least from my perspective,
and I find problems with her approach. For instance, how can you love something
so much that you don't know for sure even exists? She emphasized many times that
it was a personal relationship. Is a personal relationship with God really
necessary? She said it has to be a God that cares for us, and the essence of the
Trinity is relationship. I think possibly it's because she's a woman that she
has such an emphasis on the relationship side of things. I probably feel this
way because I've always leaned towards the path of self-inquiry instead of the
path of devotion, although I know that any path will include elements of the
other. I also feel that in her path she was trying to force-fit Christ into the
picture, and this is what led to much of the unnecessary complexity in her
thought. She talked of Christ, not God, being the problem for her. I figure
there's no reason to fit him in, but that kind of thinking would have been
unacceptable in her strongly Catholic upbringing. Of course she doesn't insist
that being a Christian is completely necessary, and she commented once that one
of her favorite saints is Ramakrishna. She said, "You can go all the way within
any tradition." From what I can tell, she does think however it's the most
effective way for someone who has been brought up in the west, and probably 95%
of her message is steeped in the Christian approach. I was not disappointed
about this because I had been warned beforehand of this fact, but it does make
for limitations if you're not living in the Christian tradition.
In the end, I found her willingness to be unorthodox and state her unpopular
message that all religions are not one refreshing. Her confrontational approach
could be valuable in helping a seeker see motives such as selfishness,
self-absorption, and lack of seriousness. Her confidence and statements about
her realization, together with seeing her at the retreat, leave me convinced she
is an awakened person, but her approach is not for everyone as she admits
herself. I left a little inspired at having met someone who left all
self-concern go in her search for truth, and I got a little taste of the freedom
that was possible with that attitude, but I was also confronted with the fact I
am not at that level of seriousness, at least not at the moment.
Kiffy's Impressions and Notes:
I am writing this now one week and a half after returning from a retreat
hosted by Bernadette Roberts in Loveland, OH. Before going into the notes I
took during the retreat, and my impression 10 days after the conclusion of
the retreat, I want to share what I wrote the Sunday I returned home, right
after the retreat had finished.
"Just came home from Bernadette Roberts, and was more struck by the retreat
than I was expecting. The strongest message that I took from the retreat was
the sense of giving one's all for Almighty God, that such was a legitimate
path for that woman, and that she lived it like very few people did. (I was
struck by the fact that) prayer to God was her practice, it was her
way of trying to move closer to the Truth….
"I was driving home tonight and I kept turning my mind back towards this idea of
God, this idea of a being greater than myself that would solve my problems if I
asked him to -- that there is help on this path and that this way of trying to
do it on my own ... it struck me that I'm so clueless within myself and that
only God really knows what I need and what's going to get me there (an
answer)….. I just feel like that's more valid, and in some sense more guaranteed
to be free of errors, provided that there is this higher power to help out. And
that was my focus a few years ago, at least ostensibly, and I trusted that
higher power to basically take care of things.... And now I'm on my own? Now I
can't ask for help, though I may desperately need it? Being around Bernadette,
hearing her speak, made me think how silly that conviction is."
Now, ten days after the fact, the intensity of my praying to God has diminished
some. However, one of the key things which Bernadette opened me up to, or at
least served as a strong reminder of, was this idea that God already knows
everything about me, that prayer can basically be an opening of myself to
myself, a sort of inner relaxation of censoring and judgment, and a recognition
of my helplessness. That inner movement, that admission of my helplessness to
myself, has the feeling of being more to the point than other forms of spiritual
work. That was the core of what I took away from Bernadette's retreat. That
said, here are some of the other notes I took during the retreat, broken down
according to category.
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On Gurus, Spiritual teachers:
- "There's no truth to this idea of sitting around a guru and
picking something up -- it's all self-fulfilling prophecy."
On Suffering that comes from God:
- "Bear it, let it burn you out, and get on with your life."
- "Our whole life is a preparation just to sustain, or bear, the
experience of no-self."
- "A dark night is a night of infused contemplation - this
darkness is caused by too much light."
On Spiritual Desire/Intuition:
- "When people say they want no-self, they really want no selfish
self."
- "There is nothing you can't go beyond without experiencing it.
You have to live self fully -- God made us that way. People think they can
somehow escape."
- "All resonance is self-resonance, it has nothing to do with
God."
- "We rarely hear the truth, but when you do, it's like getting
hit. I don't know how I know, but I just know."
- "We miss a lot of truth because it's unbelievable."
- "I never felt any special mission."
- "The thought 'I want God' is the greatest good within a person,
capable of the greatest good on earth."
On Action:
- "Prayer is a spontaneous relationship with God, whatever that is, be it joy,
depression, etc."
- "A real contemplative sets their whole life to that clock, the clock of
contemplation."
- "You can let go all you want, it doesn't go any good. In one second, God can
step in, and it (what you were trying to let go of) is gone."
- "Investigating the self has nothing to do with God or the spiritual life."
- "The only thing I ever confessed was 'I wasted time,' and I went to pieces
over it. It was the most tragic moment of my life."
- "God takes something from us, and then we can practice detachment, by just
taking it, without kicking and screaming. Real detachment is when God takes
something away."
- Bernadette mentioned that she used meditation on the rosary as a way to
clear her mind -- any time she felt distracted, she just meditated on the
rosary, and her mind was clear.
- "The more you fight the way things are, the worse it's going to be for you."
- Bernadette mentioned that our usual reaction to affliction is action, some
way of taking our attention off of the affliction. She advised that a person
instead just sit with it, let it grind internally, and bear it. It will burn the
ego out.
- "Confession gives the sense of a new beginning, of a fresh start."
- "Go off by yourself -- find silence."
On Grace/Faith/God:
- "Every grace brings with it the sense of immediate change --
life will never be the same."
- "Grace is what leads us to want God, to seek God…. (Like Joseph
Sadony with intuition) if you don't follow the grace when it comes, you won't
get any more."
- "You can't think of anything that is closer to you than yourself
-- that is God."
- "I can renew my mind anytime I want -- it won't do anything to
transform me."
- "Faith is a determination to be focused on God. You can
manipulate your will, you can focus it where you want, when you keep it
one-pointed on God."
- "Faith does not have an object."
On Helping Others:
- "What people really needed was God, not a tray of mush - someone
else can bring that tray to them."
- "More than anything, people need Grace."
On Progress:
- "We don't feel we're being transformed into anything. But
suddenly, God takes something away."
Although Bernadette framed her own experience in the context of Catholicism, she
also thought that Ramakrishna had "made the trip," and he did so by his devout
"love of God." Such statements as these were proof to me that even though
Bernadette advocated Catholicism as the best means of growing spiritually, she
is also willing to admit the possibility of other paths. The way I understood
it, a person's "love of God" was the key ingredient, and indeed the only
worthwhile practice in Bernadette's mind.
A fair percentage of the people who were in attendance at the retreat on Friday
night were gone by Saturday evening. It seemed that Bernadette's focus on
Christianity turned a lot of people off. I thought this was unfortunate, because
to me she came across as a sincere individual with a depth of wisdom I have
seldom seen, and I thought that beneath the veil of Christianity some of the
things she had to say were extremely relevant and profound.
See
Bernadette's Friends Blog for information on the next
retreat or for information on ordering Bernadette's
published books.
The painting of the monk (above) is from cover of Contemplative:
Autobiography of the Early Years, self-published by Bernadette Roberts.
Poems by Shawn Nevins
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Despite the stillness that envelopes
this ice-draped field,
a sparrow assiduously seeks winter's seed.
Last night - sleet,
freezing forms not wrapped in warmth.
This morning - prisms and mirrors of light
drape the world.
My friend - is the mind other than a frozen form?
Is that light not inside, behind, and above?
Raindrops on a window.
Looking out, a faint image of your self looks in.
Through the drops,
moving, reflecting, joining,
finding the limits of surfaces,
the world falls into being and flows away.
Hands turning, opening days and nights.
Hope and forgetfulness etching jagged marks,
cracking the porcelain smoothness
of an old doorknob.
But this was long ago.
Today,
I drag this moment from beneath the waters,
emerging from the trash and debris of a neglected pond
to remind us.
Today,
your hands turn, open doors,
leaving traces of what?
We rise up among dreams and darkness,
hearing the hushed conversation of creation,
vaguely.
Hardening into the day's direction,
solidifying the hold of self upon identity;
hardly a pause before
melting and revealing what lies beneath.
Break the mirror -
there, behind,
See!
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Humor....
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Kurt Vonnegut, from A Man Without a Country
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